Out of Sight

You know that expression, "Out of sight, out of mind"? Well, for some people, and some certain situations, it holds truth within it. But sometimes, it only seems that way in the beginning. You'll learn and grow to find that it's not true, a lot of the time. And while your worrying or moping may be needed at the beginning to help you cope, it's not needed forever.

You can have a person suddenly leave everything, with no explanation and no warning, but still be there. When people say, "They're gone," they're not. What they did there, and what they brought is still up and living. You can have a person walk right out the door, not be able to see them, and have them never come back, and they won't be out of mind. I know for a fact that you've been thinking about someone specific from the second sentence, at least. That means they're not gone. What they taught you, and what they brought to your life, you'll always have, whether they're there physically, or not. You can suddenly have no leader, no role model, PHYSICALLY in your life, but still constantly worry about them. They may be out of sight, but even just wondering about them is not out of mind.

Usually, when people leave your life, it's for a reason. Maybe it was better for them, someone close to them, someone else, or even you. It may seem ridiculous that anyone could ever leave and have it be a positive impact on you, but it's true. Everything does happen for a reason. What's the point of something happening if it's not worth anything? Just a waste of time in the short thing called life? No. If you're really sad, or depressed, or upset about this person leaving, it's probably because they touched you in some way. They brought something special into your life. They helped you, or made you smile, or inspired you, or just simply brightened your day with their presence. But they most likely taught you something. They taught you something you may not have had the chance to learn if it wasn't for them. It doesn't matter what it was they taught you, or how they taught you it. All that really counts was that you learned it. And now you have another valuable resource to add to the tool belt of skills you have for the rest of your life. Maybe them leaving you, or suddenly disappearing was a way of teaching you another lesson. How to get by on your own, deal with stress, how to take what you know and apply it to your problems, anything. You can honestly learn something from anything, anyone, and any situation. So yes, you can mope, that's not a problem. But why not try to learn something, and get something out of it also? It's just another experience that you can add to everything you've been though, another lesson learned. You're stronger at the end of the day. You can use how strong you are to encourage others. Maybe the person that's left is going to do bigger and better things. Maybe it's the best thing for them. If they meant that much to you, you'd let it happen. If you try to make the best of what's happening, you can. You just have to try, and look. Something will come out of it if you continue trying. I can 100% promise you. Although it seems like nothing can, eventually, something will. And you'll just be a better person.

So take who you have, and what you have, and learn from it. Enjoy it. It may not be there forever. And if it goes, learn from that also. It will only make you stronger. I don't know who's reading this, or what opinions you have on me, as a person, and this might have sounded cliche, or repetitive, like you've heard it before, but I don't know how else to explain this then: Embrace it. Learn from it. Then, let it go, and learn from that.

When you can't see someone it doesn't mean they're not there. When people have left it doesn't mean they're gone. When people are out of sight, they haven't left your thoughts, hopes and prayers.