"People come into our lives for a reason." Possibly one of the best known quotes of all time. You can ask almost anyone if they've heard this, and I can guarantee you they'll say yes. But not only is it well known, but it's also very well shown. Everyone truly does walk into your life for a reason. Even if it's for 10 minutes, or 10 years. No matter what role they play, they always teach you something. Whether they be your best friend, or your worst enemy.
You can have a person who you hate to an extreme amount, and still learn from them. You can learn anything from anyone. And when I say "learn", I don't mean learn how to do something. I mean that you learn something about yourself. About life. About how to live it.
The thing I've most learned from someone I disliked was persistence. I learned the importance of perseverance and pushing on when things got hard. People can make your life miserable, and a horrible place to be, but it is physically impossible for them to do it forever, especially if you have the will to keep on, even after things get incredibly difficult. People can do things that make you upset without them realizing it, and you just have to keep on. Keep moving forward. The other thing I have learned from people I dislike is the importance of being driven. The people that bully you every day or make fun of you are kind of inspiring when you think about it. Sure they're horrible people, but they have something a lot of people don't have. They have motivation. Yes, what they're doing isn't the best thing to be doing, but they have a motivation. The work restlessly, feverishly, and tirelessly to achieve their goal. If you take their motivation and drive, and put it into something that you truly care about, and work at it, you can get there. They did. When you think about it, they're not just bad people. They have flaws like you do, but they also have certain characteristics that some don't have. You can always learn from people, no matter who they are.
You can learn from experiences also. Bad and good. It's your experiences who shape who you are, and help you throughout life. The important thing is to learn something from even the worst experiences. Maybe you feel like one of your friends is turning on you because she's betraying your trust. Even though that's a hard thing to go through, you'd probably learn something about yourself in the end, or learn how to deal with it. Or maybe your friend was your best friend, but she started saying things about you behind your back. All of it makes you stronger. Every hard thing that happens makes you tougher. You've made it through another hard time. And even if you didn't learn anything about yourself, you can always tell someone going through a hard time you were in a situation similar to it. And you made it through.
Every singe person that walks into your life, for better, or for worse, is there to teach you something. Whether it's a huge lesson, or a small one, it's still a lesson. It still made an impact, and will continue to make an impact, on your life, for a very long time. So don't think that years were wasted with your friend after you decide not to be friends anymore. You learned something. It made you more of a person. A stronger person. It made you a better person.
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