It's the day (well, night) before school starts, and I figured that there was no better time to blog than now. I, personally, do not want to go to school. I don't like getting up early, I don't like riding the bus, I don't like homework, I don't like cafeteria food, I HATE math (and math hates me), and I'm not too crazy about the people at my school either. I'm pretty much just a big ball of complaints when it comes to school, but I'm not the only one. There are many other people who despise school just as much as I do. For those reasons, and others. One of the very common reasons people don't like school is simply the idea of cliques, being alone, being bullied, etc. And all of those come from something that everyone does, but no one likes being the victim of: judging people.
We, as humans, want to be liked. We strive to be noticed (in a good way), and fight for the acceptance of others. Some people even go out of their way to change who they are (even if it's a facade), in order to get someone to like them. There's nothing wrong with wanting people to like you. We all do. Why? Because we're simply human, and for some reason, the acceptance of others comes before the acceptance of ourselves. I can see why, and I can't say that I don't want people to like me. Everyone does. In most people's minds (including my own), the worst thing, or one of the worst things is to have someone not like you, especially if it's someone that you specifically WANT to like you. And it's not a bad thing, because we can't help it. But not being liked can tear you down, and hurt you badly.
People say all the time, "I don't want To be judged, by anything but my personality when they begin to really know me." Basically, we don't want to be defined by our looks, or personality at first glance. Often times, the clothes that you wear, or your facial expression isn't the best reflection of who you really are as a person. Judging people at first glance is something that's often times misread, and misjudged, but it's something all humans do anyway, even if they don't want people to do it to them. It's just natural instinct to look at a person, and see what they're doing, how they look, how they present themselves, and judge them straight away, because we're human. Judging people isn't a bad thing, we all do it. And everyone does it to us, especially the first time we meet them. If someone came up to you and told you, "I looked at you, and you looked friendly and nice," you'd probably be happy with that. If they came up to you and said, "You look and mean and rude the way you're sitting like that," you'd probably be offended. We're not afraid of judgement, we just don't want bad judgement.
So where am I going with this? When people judge us as a bad person, or don't like us, it often hurts us and makes us upset. No one wants to not be liked. No one wants to be thought of as rude and mean. At school, there's judgement everywhere, and it can hurt. But at the end of the day, one person not liking you isn't going to end the world. You just have to know how to take the judgement, and throw it aside. Here's what you need to know in order to take criticism as best as you can:
Not everyone is going to like you.
It's a fact. Not everyone is going to want to be your friend. And usually, people have reasons, as stupid as they might be. Once you accept this fact, it's a lot easier to make it through life not striving for the acceptance and confirmation of others. People are going to have problems with you, and not like things that you do or say. They're going to look at you and criticize you. But not everyone is going to like you, and once you fully learn that, you can move on from that one person who doesn't like you, and you'll be happier. Don't fight for the acceptance of someone who's not willing to give it to you. Accept that they won't and move onward. Forward is the only way to go.
It is what it is. If you can't change it, it's not worth the struggle.
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