Life's What You Make It

I haven't posted in some time, and the last one was probably unimportant to most people. It might've even been unimportant to the person who it was for, but I meant everything I said, and it needed to be said, so it's there. Anyway, I want to speak of something that I could go into MUCH more detail about. And I probably will, eventually. But for right now, I'm going to start off the post, by agreeing with a certain blonde-haired, name-rhyming Disney star: Hannah Montana.

"Life's what you make it."

When I was about eight, and had first heard this song, it wasn't any kind of life lesson, or anything that spoke to me. It was a song. That's all it was. I had liked Hannah Montana (a lot) at the time, and of course, I knew this song. But now that I think about it, this song (or the lyrics to it) make sense. They show something we all need to learn.

A couple of days ago, someone told me that I was negative. Well, they're wrong. No, I am not the perkiest flower in the garden. I'm not always smiling, and I do occasionally cry. I cry when I'm sad. I cry when I'm upset. I cry when I'm frustrated, irritated, hurt or angered. But I only cry when there's a reason to. That's not being a pessimist. That's being a realist.

I told the person that I wasn't negative, I was realistic, and they said, "Yeah. That's negative. Life is negative." And no, that's not true. Not at all. That's a negative person's opinion on it. Not an optimist, or a realist, like me. I didn't get a chance to tell this person why life isn't negative (we had to change a child), but here's the reason: Life really is what you make it. If you make life happy, it will be.

People can say, "But that doesn't make sense! You can't make yourself happy!" But yes, you can. As I stated in my earlier post, "Being Happy", it's very possible. It just takes some deep thought, and realization, that whatever problem you have, either a) can't be resolved, or b) can be resolved. If it can't be, then there's no need to worry about it. Worrying won't make things happier. And worrying won't resolve it. If it can be resolved... then resolve it. It's really very simple, actually.

"But it's not! It's a lot more difficult then that!"

No. It's not.

It might take some time and deep thought, but you can realize this. It took me a while (13 years) to understand this. But it's true. Life isn't a negative place. It's only negative when you bring it upon yourself.

So cry your eyes out when the problem first arises. And then, fix it. If you can't, then don't sweat it. It is what it is.

You can only make amends with the situation at hand once you make amends with yourself.