Being Happy

It's about that time again where I need to post about something gravely important to me, and I feel like it's the right time to do it. Yet another year of school has ended for me on Friday, and soon, half of 2012 will be over. I find it incredibly amazing how fast time goes. So, this post is going to be about the most important thing I have learned this full school year, and this half of a year so far: being happy.

Everyone wants to be happy. Right? When you really think about it, isn't everyone's real goal in life to be happy? Or rather, are the things you want to achieve going to make you happy once you achieve them? In the end, when you're lying on your deathbed, you want to be able to say that you lived the happiest life you possibly could. Am I not correct? I don't think there is ONE person on this Earth who doesn't have a goal. I know there isn't one person on this Earth who doesn't want to be happy. So, if you disagree with my previous statements, think about them before you continue reading. If you do agree, keep thinking about them. Then, when you're ready, whether you agree or not, keep reading.

Sixth grade was horrible.

I'm not going to lie when I say it was one of the worst years of my life. Why? Because I had so many issues. I had a problem with my friends, with people who weren't my friends, with my family, with my goals, with my teachers, everything. But then, a year later, now that I think about it... none of those things are a problem for me anymore. Yes, they were resolved, but if they were to somehow come back into my life, I wouldn't find them a problem anymore. They seem trivial and small now. I'm much happier, regardless of whether the problems I now have are bigger or smaller. Why? Because of the way I have grown and my thought process has grown within a year. Because the things that I found important then may be unimportant now, and vice versa. Because I now have a new definition of being "happy".

Being "happy" is defined as, "being characterized by or indicative of pleasure, contentment, satisfaction, or joy." The word "satisfaction" is the one I am speaking mostly of. You're satisfied when you complete your goals, no matter how large or small. You're satisfied when you have accomplished something. You're satisfied when something that you want comes out as you want it. And that makes you happy. That's basically the global definition of being happy. Think about this. Ponder it. Agree or don't agree. And then, when you're done thinking, continue reading.

So, having that being said, you're happy when things go the way you want. It is assumed that then when you have things not go the way you want, you are "unhappy".

Being "unhappy" is defined as, "being sad, miserable, or wretched". When things don't go your way, when you don't get what you want, or anything like that, makes you sad, upset, frustrated, angry, depressed, annoyed, and so on. That makes you unhappy. That's the global definition of being unhappy.

So what's the point of all of this? My point was to get you to understand that most people's definitions of being "happy" is to be satisfied. And most people's definitions of being "unhappy" is to be unsatisfied. Only when you realize that can we move on to how to make yourself happy. So now, again, think about everything I have said. Read over it, think about it, agree or disagree. And then, keep reading.

You can control your emotions.

Well, maybe not control them. But you can encourage them in a certain direction.

At least I can.

And I can because of what my definition of "being happy" is.

It's simply, "To not be unhappy."

That's pretty basic. Now think about THAT definition of being happy, and decide whether you agree with it or not. Then, as always, keep reading.

Now think about this: Are you ever happy when you're sad, upset, frustrated, depressed, angered, jealous, annoyed, pestered, mad, or hurt?

No.

Are you ever UN-happy when you're sad, upset, frustrated, depressed, angered, jealous, annoyed, pestered, mad, or hurt?

Yes.

So, to be happy, you can't be unhappy. And to not be unhappy, you can't be any one of those emotions or any like it.

Make sense?

It's a bit confusing, but think about it, read over it, and then...

Well, you know. Keep reading.

We WANT to be happy. That is our goal. To be happy, we can't be any one of those emotions. So don't be. Don't let yourself be. It might be difficult, but I can do it. You can too, if you understand what I'm saying, take it to heart, and try. Tell yourself that you want to be happy. Refuse to be any of those emotions. Turn what's nothing you around and MAKE it better. Don't sit there crying. Crying doesn't make things any happier. Tell whoever you need to whatever you need to. Do what you have to do, regardless of what it is, or the consequences of it. Make it better for yourself. When you finally get the courage and motivation to make it better for yourself, only then can you be happy. Then, you won't be any of those emotions. Then, you won't be unhappy. Then, you will be happy. Take charge of your life. Make it what you want it to be.

Make it happy.